There is a lot of misunderstanding about what love is, but the Bible is
quite clear on this subject. Although there are three Greek words for
love, one of them is quite predominant. The two less predominant ones
might be described as sexual love, and friendship love, respectively, but
the most predominant one could be called Godly love. This Godly love in
the Bible is a mental attitude that causes us to want to pursue the
welfare of others, with no bitterness or ill will for any sacrifices we
might need to make in this endeavor.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8, 13 says, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does
not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude,
it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of
wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the
truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always
perseveres. Love never fails... And now these three
remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
In addition, true love, as it is described in Philippians 1:9-12, is
enduring and durable, kind, faithful, and hopeful. It is never jealous,
conceited, unmannerly, irritable, self-seeking, demanding its rights,
it never takes pleasure in injustice, and it never fades.
In summary, if you love someone, you are willing to pursue the welfare
of that person, meaning that you unselfishly want what's best for them,
to the extent that you're willing to make significant sacrifices so
that person can indeed have what's best for them. C.S. Lewis said that
when you love someone, you want to take that person's suffering onto
yourself. In fact, 1 John 3:16-17 says, "This is how we know what love
is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down
our lives for our brothers."
I believe that the key to this Godly mental attitude love is the
characteristic of being unselfish. If a husband truly loves his wife,
he doesn't find faults in her where she has failed to live up to his
expectations. Instead, he unselfishly wants her to have the best
things, even if he has to make sacrifices to acquire those things for
Owen Weber 2009